Adjusting to Motherhood: Why it's Okay to Ask for Help

Motherhood is one of the most beautiful and challenging transitions you’ll ever experience. From sleepless nights to endless feedings, the weight of this new season can feel overwhelming. Yet, many moms carry the belief that they should handle it all on their own. But, guess what?? You weren’t meant to do this alone. Asking for help isn’t a sign of failure—it’s a reflection of your strength and love for your baby. Let’s explore why it’s okay to ask for help and how it can transform your motherhood journey.

You Weren’t Meant to Do This Alone
Throughout history, mothers have leaned on their communities for support. Meals, wisdom, and responsibilities were shared. Today, we often feel isolated, but the need for connection hasn’t changed. You’re not failing because you can’t do it all. In fact, by asking for help, you’re creating space to be present and fully care for yourself and your baby.

Help Isn’t Just Practical—It’s Emotional
When we think about asking for help, we often picture things like someone holding the baby while we nap or a friend bringing over a meal. And yes, those things are so important. But help goes beyond the practical. It’s also about finding emotional support during this big transition.

Motherhood can feel isolating, even when you’re surrounded by people. Having someone to talk to—a friend, a family member, or even a professional—can make a world of difference. Sharing your fears, frustrations, and joys can lift a weight off your shoulders and remind you that you’re not alone.

It’s okay to say, “I’m struggling.” It’s okay to call someone just to cry or vent. Vulnerability is not a weakness; it’s part of being human. And more often than not, you’ll find that opening up invites deeper connection and understanding from those around you.

Asking for Help Is an Act of Strength
Think about how you respond when your friend asks for help. You see their request as natural, even brave—not weak. Why would you treat yourself any differently? By asking for help, you’re showing self-awareness and modeling the value of community. You’re also allowing others to step into their own gifts and callings, whether it’s by cooking a meal, babysitting, or simply being present.

Faith and Community Go Hand in Hand
God created us to lean on one another. “Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way, you will fulfill the law of Christ” (Galatians 6:2). When you ask for help, you’re inviting others to be part of your journey—and allowing God’s love to shine through them.

Practical Ways to Ask for Help
If you’re unsure how to begin, start small:
💖Be specific. Instead of saying, “I’m overwhelmed,” try, “Can you hold the baby for 30 minutes so I can rest?” or “Would you mind picking up groceries?”
💖Accept help when offered. When someone says, “Let me know if you need anything,” take them up on it.
💖Reach out to your village. Lean on family, friends, church members, or online communities who understand what you’re going through.
💖Consider professional support. Postpartum doulas, therapists, or lactation consultants can provide invaluable guidance and care.

You Deserve Support
Adjusting to motherhood is a profound transition, and no one should navigate it alone. Asking for help isn’t just okay—it’s necessary. It allows you to care for yourself and your baby in ways that reflect strength, love, and wisdom.

Feeling overwhelmed? Download my free guide, “3 Ways to Prepare for Birth and Beyond,” or schedule a Forming Foundations Coaching Call for personalized support tailored to your journey. Go to the contact tab to reach out!

What’s one way you can ask for help today? Share in the comments—I’d love to cheer you on and remind you that you’re never alone in this.